Saturday, October 21, 2017

How to survive working with your partner

There's a reason why office romances are sometimes more prevalent in some workplaces then others; it entirely depends on the work culture but when you work alongside someone day after day, you can get to know them. Working towards a common goal can bring people together, but it can also be incredibly difficult working alongside your romantic partner, and in some cases tear relationships apart. At the end of the day, that person has your best interests at heart, at home and at work. Hopefully there's a mutual understanding within the relationship that each party has an equal say, but at work that may not necessarily be the case. As with all things in life, keeping communication open is key and it is absolutely essential that you both have respect for one another.

Business partners
If you're in partnership with each other, then understand you have equal say when it comes to major decisions that will effect both parties in the short-term and long-term. It can be difficult to speak up, particularly for women who have chosen to work alongside and support their partner's business but if you've been at it for long enough, your partner should value your contributions and ideas. When you communicate with one another, it is important that you listen and try to understand where the other is coming from, it is not necessarily about making them see things your way.

If you find your partner is ignoring your input when it comes to making major decisions, tell them how this makes you feel or when the numbers are on your side, how this is hurting you financially. However, if this develops into a re-occurring pattern, you may need to seriously consider getting a job with another employer. Helping your partner is one thing, but if you find yourself stressed, frustrated and angry, and unable to enjoy their company at the end of the day you need to ask yourself what really matters the most.

Save for your retirement.
Say it with me, 'a man is not a financial plan'. If you're married, you may already have a joint bank account with your partner, contribute to mortgage repayments and share some other finances. That's fine, but no matter what your line of work I strongly urge every woman out there to make sure your retirement fund or superannuation account is growing, and that the types of investments made align with your social and moral codes. For example, you may not want to back a superannuation account which invests in coal-fired power stations and instead may look to renewable energy. If that's you, follow and support what you think is right but on the flip side, don't stay with a bad superannuation fund. I've worked as a casual in retail in the past and have been devastated to find out that REST sucked every single dollar from my account due to their fees. Needless to say, I will never sign up with REST every again!

I'm now in the unique situation where I work part-time on my partners sheep station, and also do my PhD part-time. Technically, I'm earning a very small amount, which is also why I've been diverting funds from my everyday account to a savings account. I'm only twenty-four, but by the time I'm sixty-five I hope to have enough money to retire. I don't want to rely solely on my super fund to do that, and trying to take matters into my own hands. I feel empowered, albeit a little broke at the moment but the safety and security is worth it! Again, if you share finances with your partner, have some different accounts e.g. a splurge account for disposable income, and a separate savings account in an emergency situation. If something were to happen to your partner, and their death was investigated the banks can and will freeze your accounts, and do little to help you pay your bills and groceries.

Divide and conquer. 
This isn't about breaking up, but rather my way of telling you that you have strengths and weaknesses that may or may not be different to those of your partner. While I could, for example learn how to put brake pads in a car, there really isn't any need for me to do so. I don't have the desire to learn, which isn't working in my favor but my partner knows how to do it. So while he's doing that, I can focus on something else which will ultimately contribute to the household or running the business. It can save a lot of time, headaches and in some cases, heartbreak when we focus on what we're good at, rather than getting hung up over what we don't understand.

It isn't acceptable to yell in the workplace.

Depending on your line or work, whether you're out doing a task or in the process of making a business decision there can be a lot of tension. Living in rural Queensland, I've heard anecdotally from neighbors about a man carrying on and behaving inappropriately at his only support, his wife. In response, she said coolly he could do it on his own if he was going to shout at her and walked out on him, for the afternoon that is. It shouldn't get to this, however studies show that couples typically treat each other with less civility than they would with a stranger. While this might seem counter intuitive, I can understand that within a relationship your standards can lapse and a harsh word can be spoken. I'm incredibly lucky to work with my boyfriend who remains calm and can see the funny side of just about every situation. However, I know stress can turn me into a monster, and often tell him at the start of a workday if I'm feeling anxious, how this might manifest and how to deal with the situation. Thankfully everything hasn't gone pear shape, but there will come a day when the strength of our working relationship will be tested. 

Thursday, October 19, 2017


Wearing: White off shoulder shirt, Miss Shop skirt and Asos flats. 

I've been stuck in a style rut for about the last month or so now, and without a steady paycheck I'm finding it hard to inject whimsy and wonder back into my wardrobe. Over the years I've managed to successfully hoard my fair share of craft material and I think my much-loved loafers will be getting a makeover. I'm still not 100% sure whether I should simply coat them in craft glue, followed by glitter and hope for the best or if embezzling with tiny gemstones would yield better results. If anyone has any tips on upcycling items from their closet, I'd love to hear your recommendations!

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Slick Woods

There are ebbs and flows within the fashion industry, and models are not immune to fashion's fickle nature. It seems like only yesterday gap-tooth model Lindsey Wixson was the toast of the town, but now at age 23 she's since announced her retirement as a model to now focus on a career in interior design. But now there's Slick Woods (née Simone Thompson), a catwalk queen and face of Rihanna’s fashion brand Fenty, friends with Adwoa Aboah and photographed by the legendary Tim Walker for i-D. Unlike most models who come from a place of privilege, Slick Woods was sent to jail at the tender age of eighteen, and was raised by her grandmother from the age of four following her mother Leah being imprisoned for manslaughter. 

Sitting in my kitchen in rural Queensland and having grown up in Melbourne I can't even comprehend what life most have been like for this incredible young woman, entering into adulthood prematurely and fending for herself through criminal activity. There's a real toughness, grit and authenticity to Slick Woods, whose gap-toothed larger than life smile, shaved head, tattoos and 'I don't give a f***' attitude have earned her the respect of Kanye West, the "the first person that told me I was going to blow up who I actually believed". He's not the angelic fairy godmother that helped Slick out of poverty and crime, with the model stating Kanye was slow to pay her, only fronting the money after she walked for Yeezy a second time. You can look forward to seeing Woods star in next year’s Pirelli calendar, styled by new British Vogue editor Edward Enninful, and many more exciting new projects. 

Tuesday, October 17, 2017


During my last week at work a traveler who didn't even purchase tickets to visit the museum I work at gifted me this beautiful piece of amethyst. Whilst trying to convince him he might like to see the exhibits, he produced a polished piece of labradorite from his pocket. It was gorgeous, but I joked I couldn't pay the fifty bucks he was asking, he went back to the carpark and upon returning to the reception desk asked me to open my hand. I was so shocked he had been so generous I never even had the chance to thank him! In any case, he quickly went to drive away before I could come to grips with the situation.

Sunday, October 15, 2017


Wearing: Romance Was Born top, vintage skirt from TrendListr, Sophia Webster butterfly heels and Marina Fini choker.

When's the last time you threw caution to the wind and simply went with your gut instinct? Was it when you spoke up and contributed at your last team meeting or choosing to eat something you've never tried at dinner last night? It doesn't take much to introduce little changes into our lives to ensure that we keep growing, but it can become all too common that we fall into patterns. Unsurprisingly I see the biggest patterns and sameness occurring in our closets and wardrobes. How often have you discovered two items of clothing you own are near identical? Here's a thought, the next time you catch yourself out and experience déjà vu ask yourself why you've fallen into the same pattern and is there a deeper underlying issue at play? Of course, no judgement if you order the same smoothie every time because you don't want to experience disappointment.

Friday, October 13, 2017

Take a chance

Chanel has finally given their Chanel Chance campaign a much needed update. As much as I love the Hillary Duff for Disney Chanel aesthetic of the 00's campaign, there's a refreshing twist and a La La Land feel about the more recent ad. Thankfully they've omitted the romantic narrative and instead four girls are bowling with perfume bottles instead (not that there's anything wrong with Ryan Gosling).

Wednesday, October 11, 2017


Wearing: White off shoulder shirt, Asos skirt and River Island gold mules. 

There's no sign of the warmer weather letting up, which normally causes a minor identity crisis. This year I'm content to explore different combinations and really explore the potential of certain pieces within my wardrobe. This off the shoulder top is something I've gotten a lot of wear out of, and is easy to pair with jeans during the day and a skirt and heels for something like a barbecue or dinner with friends. It's also something I feel super comfortable wearing, which is perfect when trying to focus on a conversation instead of looking at my phone.